Sheryl Crow is outspoken about adopting her two sons alone after her relationship with Lance Armstrong “crumbled” over her desire to have children.
The singer, who is mother to Wyatt (14) and Levi (11), had a candid conversation about her public split with the former cyclist, surviving breast cancer and her path to motherhood on Hoda Kotb’s new podcast, ‘Making Space’ .
“I just never thought I wouldn’t have kids,” Crow, 59, told Today’s host. “I think I thought of it in the context of family. It wasn’t like I saw myself getting pregnant [or] I couldn’t wait to experience that I had a baby inside me. It wasn’t so much that. It was much more about the miracle of raising someone.’
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Path to Motherhood: Sheryl Crow, 59, opened up during a candid conversation about Hoda Kotb’s new podcast ‘Making Space’ about adopting her two sons on her own
Looking back: The singer told Kotb that she always imagined raising children and starting a family
Looking back: Crow was 45 when she adopted her son Wyatt and 48 when she adopted her son Levi (pictured in 2012)
The nine-time Grammy winner divorced Armstrong in 2006 after three years together. He later said he broke up with her because they were “against her biological clock” and he wasn’t ready to have any more children.
Although Crow didn’t mention her famous ex by name, she alluded to his earlier comments about the end of their relationship.
‘You know, there’s one thing about a woman and the biological clock,’ she said, ‘we are often blamed for the breakdown of relationships. “Well, her biological clock” or “She wanted kids and I wasn’t ready for that.”
“And it’s true, I don’t want to say sexist things, but it does feel that way,” she added. “I remember my last relationship crumbling largely because I wanted to.”
Crow began dating Armstrong in 2003, the same year he and his first wife Kristin Richard announced their divorce. He then had three children, a son and two daughters.
Armstrong, who was stripped of his seven consecutive Tour de France in 2012 following his doping scandal, had two more children with his current fiancée, Anna Hansen.
Split: Crow said her relationship with Lance Armstrong ended in 2006 due to her desire to have children, saying, ‘I remember my last relationship crumbling largely because that’s what I wanted’
Timing: Two weeks after Crow’s split from Armstrong, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. The singer (pictured in May 2021) has been in remission for 15 years
“I didn’t want to be someone’s girlfriend and raise their kids,” Crow explained. “I didn’t want to be a stepmother or become a wife and mother.”
The songwriter likened the experience to “the nanny” and “not the real aging.”
Two weeks after Crow’s split from Armstrong, she was diagnosed with ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS), also known as stage zero breast cancer.
DCIS is characterized by the presence of abnormal cells in the lining of the breast milk that have become cancerous but have not spread further.
Crow, who was 44 at the time, had a lumpectomy and radiation. She has been in remission for 15 years.
The Picture singer said it was her mother who suggested she have her own babies after her breast cancer treatment.
Life-changing decision: The nine-time Grammy winner said it was her mother who suggested having children alone after her cancer was in remission
Happy Mother: ‘I had the gift of getting a lot of things out of my system before I had my kids, or before I had my kids,’ said Crow of becoming a mother later in life
“It was her who said, see if you adopt, you have a family around you who will stand with you at the altar at the baptism and say, ‘We are his community, or her community,'” she said.
She explained that her family’s support gave her “the life raft” she needed to pursue motherhood without getting married.
“The story I told myself limited what I thought I could have until someone stepped in and said, ‘Wait a minute, your story doesn’t have to look like your mom and dad’s story. like the conventional family you had,” she recalled. “Families all look different.”
Crow, who was 45 when she adopted Wyatt and 48 when she adopted Levi, said it was the right time in her life to become a mother.
“I had this gift of getting a lot of things out of my system before I had my kids, or before I had my kids,” she said. “So there wasn’t anything I felt I was missing.
“If I stayed home and something was going on, I just didn’t feel like I was missing anything, that I wanted to be somewhere else, and that’s a gift.
‘I think if I was in my twenties’ [or] even as I tried to be in the world I’ve lived in for the past 28 years in the early 1930s, I might have been pulled in many different directions.”