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Cancer patient, 28, given 10 years to live, shares fears she won’t marry because she is dying

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A 28-year-old cancer patient with only 10 years to live talks about the realities of living with a terminal diagnosis, while describing her fear that she will never be able to marry or have children because of such limited time.

Chiara Riga, of California, said before her diagnosis that she dreamed of the day she would find a husband, buy her own house and start a family.

But those dreams were dashed after she was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer and told she had only 10 years to live.

After noticing a lump in her right breast, Chiara went for an ultrasound. Doctors ran some tests and soon discovered breast calcifications, as well as multiple tumors on her body.

She was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer, which has no cure, and was given the devastating news that she probably only has a decade to live.

A 28-year-old cancer patient who has 10 years to live is candid about the reality of time running out — and shared her fears she’ll never get married or have kids

Chiara Riga said before her diagnosis that she dreamed of the day she would find a husband, buy her own house and start a family

Chiara Riga said before her diagnosis that she dreamed of the day she would find a husband, buy her own house and start a family

But those dreams were cut short after she was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer and told she had only 10 years to live

But those dreams were cut short after she was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer and told she had only 10 years to live

“When we started all the testing, there was hope for rapid, aggressive early-stage cancer treatment,” she told the Today show in a recent interview.

“I braced myself for what I assumed would be a brutal regimen of chemotherapy, perhaps radiation, and then unquestionable remission.

“It would be difficult, sure, but I was young. It would take me a year, maybe two, to focus on cancer treatment, and then I would return to my “to do in life” list as planned.

“Once we learned it was stage four, a new plan came up — instead of fighting cancer, I would learn to live with it for as long as my cancer allowed.”

She and her doctors decided not to put her body through the stress of undergoing chemotherapy, but instead decided to take daily oral medications and receive monthly injections that would “slow down the disease.”

Chiara said that after her diagnosis, she felt “sadness, anger and denial” and went to a “dark place.”

“I would distance myself when I was around friends preparing to close a house or give birth to their first child,” she said.

‘I would think about the purpose of going to work – there is no point promoting the terminal cancer patient. Why should I even try?’

Finally, she took a new approach — trying to pretend it wasn’t happening so she could live out her final years to the fullest, but that made it worse.

After noticing a lump in her right breast last year, Chiara went for an ultrasound.  Doctors ran tests and soon discovered breast calcifications, as well as multiple tumors on her body

After noticing a lump in her right breast last year, Chiara went for an ultrasound. Doctors ran tests and soon discovered breast calcifications, as well as multiple tumors on her body

She was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer, which has no cure, and made the shocking revelation that she would only live a decade

She was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer, which has no cure, and made the shocking revelation that she would only live a decade

At first she said she felt

At first she said she felt “sadness, anger and denial” and went to a “dark place”. But now she’s focused on living her final years to the fullest

She explained: “I told myself that if I just stayed positive and didn’t fully acknowledge what was going on, I could live my life as if everything was ‘normal’.

“It wouldn’t be okay, but it looks like it’s okay. I bottled up all my fear, anger, and disappointment—another cancer that sat in my body and multiplied until I couldn’t contain the evil fear any longer.’

She said it was ultimately an episode of America’s Got Talent that changed things for her.

In it, a woman named Jane Marczewski joined the show and revealed that she also had stage four cancer. And seeing her positive view of the situation inspired Chiara.

“Then it all started to turn around. I realized that I could be miserable in the time I had left, or that I could find things that make me happy within the confines of my illness,” she continued.

She decided to move in with her parents so that she could save money to travel the world.

She decided to move in with her parents so that she could save money to travel the world.  She has plans to visit Maui and Greece, and also wants to see all the national parks in the US

She decided to move in with her parents so that she could save money to travel the world. She has plans to visit Maui and Greece, and also wants to see all the national parks in the US

And while she no longer plans to get married or have children, she said she will continue to date

She added: 'Find'

And while she no longer plans to get married, Chiara will continue to date. She added: ‘I’d rather spend time with people who are in my life rather than look for someone who isn’t’

She also partners with an organization called b-present, which helps

She also partners with an organization called b-present, which helps “adolescent and young adult cancer patients feel supported on their cancer journey.”

What do we know about stage four breast cancer?

  • In the case of breast cancer, getting a stage four diagnosis may mean that the cancer has reached organs outside the breasts, such as your bones or your lungs.
  • According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), the five-year survival rate after diagnosis for people with stage 4 breast cancer is 28 percent
  • Because survival rates are higher in the early stages of breast cancer, early diagnosis and treatment is critical
  • Although stage four breast cancer is currently not curable, it can be treated. Getting the right treatment can increase both your quality of life and longevity
  • Treatments include: hormone therapy, chemotherapy, immunotherapy, surgery, or radiation therapy
  • Source: Healthline

She has plans to visit Maui and Greece, and also wants to see all the national parks in the US

And while she no longer plans to get married or have children, she said she will continue to date.

She said: ‘I have ten years to live. While I no longer wonder what my wedding will look like or consider the middle names of my future children, I do intend to continue dating.

“Sex is off the table because I don’t have a libido due to my meds and the fact that the treatment has put me into early menopause.

“But even though I know how incredibly hard it is to find someone interested in sexless partnerships, I’ll still be swiping through the dating apps and agreeing to a random lunch or early dinner every now and then.

“Finding my person is not a priority – a free meal is nice every now and then, but I’d rather spend my time with the people who are in my life rather than use that time to find someone who isn’t .’

She also partners with an organization called b-present, which helps “adolescent and young adult cancer patients feel supported on their cancer journey.”

‘I will not die of old age. Instead, in 10 years or so, I will kill my cancer,” she concluded.

“I am committed to staying realistic about my diagnosis. Because my cancer outsmarts my current treatment plan, my treatments will increase in both severity and intensity until no more treatments are available.

‘I’m not going to buy a house. I probably won’t get married. I doubt I will have children. But I’m going to have adventures. I go on crappy dates. I’ll be there.

“I will have fond memories with loved ones. I’ll be watching TV on the couch all weekend. I’m going camping in the woods. I’m going to make new friends.

“And I’ll cling to the one life plan that hasn’t changed: I won’t watch my life pass me by—I’ll live it.”

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